Tuesday, 10 May 2011

Allowing The Grief Process

Allowing the Grief Process 
 The issue of grief and loss is a major part of the migrant life experience.  Grief and loss are emotional states that need to be acknowledged and then adequately mourned.  The feelings cannot be ignored or shut away inside but must be consciously processed in order for the migrant to successfully adjust and adapt to life in the new country.  Mourning is not a sign of weakness--it is a normal and necessary process.  In order to get past the grief, one needs to go through it. 
 While most people would associate mourning with crying, emotional release can be accomplished through a variety of other ways such as talking, writing, meditating, engaging in art or dance and practicing meaningful rituals.  It is important that migrants take the time to process the grief they hold, in whatever manner that is appropriate for them. 

Grief might be on-going, especially in the initial post migration period.  In other cases, grief might appear only sporadically, as when a face on the street seems oddly familiar, or a fragrance or sound suddenly reminds one of something back home. Although grief and loss are normal emotions, if the feelings become too intense or obsessive, one may need to seek professional help to cope with them especially If feelings of grief interrupt one’s ability to stay focused and accomplish the tasks of everyday life.

Seeking Professional Help

 Depression, anxiety, grief/loss and isolation are normal emotions for migrants to experience, but when these conditions become overwhelming, migrants need to reach out and seek professional help.  Furthermore, should Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) be evident, migrants need to find help immediately. 

In most democratic Western countries, free services exist that offer mental health counseling to those who cannot afford to pay.  This may become complicated if asylum cases are pending, because various countries withhold health services until the cases are resolved.  However, should government services be denied, other types of non-state services do exist for migrants.  Run by fellow migrants or individuals sympathetic to their plight, these services can be highly effective, and in some cases, perhaps even more helpful than the formal state-sponsored services.  Migrants searching for non-government services can look for information and referrals at medical centers, telephone crisis lines, refugee organizations, Churches or by doing a local search on the Internet.

Many migrants with conditions such as PTSD may be afraid to ask for help, due to the stigma attached to mental illness.  Yet left untreated, PTSD does not cure itself and will often worsen over time.  Also, the longer it is left untreated, the harder it is to treat the disorder.  As a result, seeking help immediately can effectively prevent future complications from developing. 

In some cases, PTSD sufferers avoid seeking out psychiatrists due to fear of, or aversion to, taking drugs.  However, PTSD is typically treated without drugs, using psychotherapy (talk therapy) and other safe, classic healing techniques such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).

 Migrants would be in good stead to make use of it while they can.  By helping themselves recover from trauma, individual migrants are also inadvertently helping to rebuild the homeland.

Thursday, 28 April 2011

The Immigrant Life: Life in Diaspora

The Immigrant Experience:  Life in Diaspora
Most immigrants arrive in their new host country with great expectations.  They have said good-bye to friends and family, traveled long distances and taken huge risks to finally arrive at their destination--the new land of “milk and honey.”  This new country, the immigrant have been told, holds a higher standard of living, plenty of work and opportunities galore.  Compared to what the standard of living was like in their homeland, life in this new capitalist haven should be fantastic, right?  Well, yes and no. 

Even under the best circumstances, immigrating to a new country can be a harrowing experience.  Life in diaspora is often more difficult than previously foreseen.  No matter how well prepared one thinks one is, inevitably, there are things that will catch one by surprise.  Bewilderment, confusion and eventually, disappointment can set in when reality meets fantasy--when the envisioned dream of life in the “promised land” and the day-to-day reality of life in the new host country do not match. 

Upon entry into the country of destination, the migrant has to focus upon the major issues at hand: gaining resident status, employment and a place to live.  However, even if the migrant has managed to acquire these fundamental necessities, a number of hurdles remain to be crossed--hurdles that are both psychosocial and economic in nature.  To a large degree, the immigrant experience is shaped by how well one has prepared for these problems.  An old saying states that, “to be forewarned, is to be forearmed.”   Those who are unprepared will not fare as well as those who have pre-armed themselves with knowledge about the conflicts they will face, along with useful strategies to combat those conflicts--the knowledge plus action framework. 
  First, however, we turn to look at some of the psychosocial problems typically affecting  immigrants’ life.

Psychosocial Issues Affecting Migrants
 
Grief and Loss Issues
Traveling hundreds of miles and separating from one’s family, home and culture can create tremendous feelings of loss.  Even if the migrant is excited about emigrating and even if the situation at home was less than to be desired, there is still an accompanying sense of loss felt by the migrant--and loss always requires adequate mourning. 

Letting go of the past and moving into the future can be an exciting adventure, but underneath the “adrenaline high” lies a great deal of sadness and physiological stress.  Psychologists tell us that change always produces stress in one’s life. This happens to be the case even when the changes occurring are positive ones.  Therefore, the emigration experience feels particularly overwhelming because there is change and concomitant stress in nearly every aspect of one’s life--geographic, economic, social and cultural.  Feelings may run the gamut of both high and low extremes, all in the course of a single day.  While the migrant may feel joy at their newfound opportunities, that joy is continually punctured by loneliness for loved ones back home and in some cases, a sense of guilt that the migrant is in a better place than those left behind.

Grief and loss issues are not limited to the immediate post-migration phase.  It can take years to settle in to a new country of residence and during that entire period, grief issues can make themselves keenly felt.  Furthermore, even though many migrants consider their life abroad as temporary, not knowing when one will return home produces an uncertainty about the future that further fuels feelings of sorrow.
  
Isolation 
Isolation is an essential part of Diasporas’  life.  A condition universal to any immigrant experience, it may be seen as one of the defining factors of living in exile.  Isolation is a two-fold problem, and can be felt as isolation from other  immigrants, and/or isolation from the native population in the host country. 

Isolation from other immigrants is less likely to be a problem in certain destination countries such as South Africa or the UK..

The degree of isolation migrants experience in Diaspora depends upon on the immigrant status--those awaiting verdicts on asylum cases, those with temporary status and those who have no legal documentation are likely to feel a greater degree of isolation from the rest of the  population than those who possess permanent legal status.  Legal and permanent status affords one a sense of belonging and makes it easier to begin the process of laying down physical and psychological roots to the host country.  For those without legal documentation, isolation will exist indefinitely and will be one of the foremost elements of their life in Diaspora, affecting all of their decisions and actions for as long as they reside in the host country. 

While isolation is an experience usually felt by the individual migrant, marginalization is felt by the entire sub-population of migrants.  As a group, foreigners are often marginalized--pushed to the fringes of society, where they remain, unaccepted by the native majority.  Marginalization can also turn into discrimination and structuralized racism , whereby the migrant group is prevented from assimilating into, or advancing within, the host country.  Both individual isolation and group marginalization can produce acute feelings of loneliness, which in turn enter into a cycle with grief and loss.  Feelings of grief can trigger feelings of loneliness, which then lead to a sense of isolation.  As well, the cycle is self-perpetuating and any element within it can trigger the other two elements.

Culture shock

 Culture shock refers to the feelings of alienation and estrangement that accompany the process of learning to adapt to a new host culture.  Even if one’s destination country speaks the same language that the immigrant is accustomed to, people in the new country will speak that language using different accents, dialects, euphemism and idioms.  They will use unique body language or gestures and will behave in ways that the migrant is not accustomed to.  Different cultures operate using different underlying normative assumptions. As a result, trying to adapt to a new culture can feel as if one is trying to learn the rules of an invisible system with no accompanying guidebook or manual--a frustrating and often bewildering experience.
 For example, migrants may be puzzled by the me-oriented “cult of individualism” that pervades in the West.  They may also be somewhat surprised by Westerners’ “worship” of youth and disregard for seniors.  In turn, Western society, with its emphasis upon the nuclear family, will not easily understand the African practice of neither polygamy, nor the customary loyalty to extended family and the practice of supporting relatives back home.  Furthermore, the excessive nudity and pornography found in European and North American culture may offend some immigrants, whose home culture tends to adopt a more modest approach.  As a result, some migrants may view the standard behavior commonly found in the West as overly liberal, immodest or even vulgar.

For those migrants who are migrating to highly developed countries, going from a land where basic food and shelter is in short supply to the other extreme--where one is flooded with food and commodities--can be a disconcerting experience.  A highly developed capitalist culture with a glut of excess can be confusing and disorienting to exiles that are used to more frugal lifestyles.  Bombarded by an endless array of choices when there used to be none, some migrants may feel temporarily dizzy from the “glitz and bling” of Western capitalist culture.  For younger migrants, such as university students, it is easy to become sidetracked and distracted from their goals especially during the initial post-migration period--how does one stay balanced and focused when one feels as if one is living in “Disneyland”?

Trying to adjust to new foods can also affect one physically.  One may become ill until one’s body adjusts to the different types of food and drink consumed in the new host country, and the excess amounts. 

A new culture means learning about new holidays, new social rituals and new political and bureaucratic systems.  Having to learn fundamentals like these can make one feel like a child again.  Furthermore, starting over when one is an adult past the age of thirty can be a nerve-wracking experience.  
 Trauma  
  Trauma is a complicated emotional state that is different from loss, grief or anger (although it can include all of these emotions).  It is a psychological condition that involves shock, distress and long-term emotional and cognitive effects.  Trauma is considered to be a normal reaction to extreme events, such as experiencing violence, sexual abuse, war, or living through a natural disaster. 

Nightmares, flashbacks, generalized anxiety and depression are all symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).  Symptoms of PTSD can be so intrusive that they can interfere with the ability to function normally in day-to-day life.  In many cases, individuals with PTSD will not seek help, due to the social stigma attached to mental health problems.  Men, especially, resist seeking treatment because they are socialized to put on a strong front and avoid displaying emotional vulnerability.  However, left untreated, PTSD will continue over a lifetime, and can seriously hinder the individual’s ability to work, study or engage in meaningful social relationships.  Untreated PTSD can often lead to secondary complications--those suffering from trauma often also suffer from domestic problems and may resort to self-medicating with alcohol or drugs in an effort to cope From this we can conclude that migrants live in constant fear of harassment by natives, exploitation from employers and abuse from police and other officials.  As one Zimbabwean migrant state, “You run away from danger just to be arrested, to be asked for a bribe and then put back where you are running away from.”

In other destination countries, physical violence may not be the chief concern, but other pressures, such as immigration status, will produce daily stress.  Asylum cases often take years to process and during that time, legal access to employment or income benefits is prohibited in many countries.  Trying to survive when one is not legally allowed to work can put one in a state of extreme crisis, further heightened by the anxiety of having one’s claim eventually denied.  And for those migrants never fortunate enough to acquire legal documentation, attempting to live incognito produces lifelong fear of arrest and deportation, and instills a sense of always having to live life “looking over one’s shoulder”.  

For those who are fortunate enough to secure legal immigrant status and to live in a country where violence against foreigners is minimal, low-grade chronic stress is still a feature of daily life.  Migrants as a group are at risk for financial strain, lack of social support, and under-employment in poorly paid, monotonous jobs--all of which are factors that lead to chronic, low-grade stress. 

Studies show that living a life of prolonged stress can lead to physical and mental health problems as well as early onset of various diseases.  These studies also suggest a correspondence between social status and chronic stress levels. Consequently, stress and poor health is a fact of life for many migrants living in diaspora.

The “Double Life” Existence and the Pressure to Succeed
Another huge source of chronic stress is the “double life” existence most immigrants lead.  Those in Diaspora arrive at their host country feeling enormous pressure to succeed economically.  Not only do they have to succeed in order to ensure their own survival, they also have to ensure the survival of others who are relying on them back home.
Many migrants hope to save up enough money to eventually bring home luxuries such as a new car or a down payment on a house.  But for many, disappointment and disillusion set in again as they find that they are unable to save enough money to achieve these dreams.  Life in the host country is usually more expensive than expected.  As one US migrant puts it:  “The flush of saved money doesn't go far in these times when every American dollar that we have buys food and pays bills with nothing left over for the other essentials necessary for life and health. After paying the rent and the bills in the host country, and then sending cash home to waiting relatives, not much is left of a paycheck.
Each day, migrants are arriving in Diaspora with dreams of “making it big.”  Meanwhile, structural economic factors in the host country are actively blocking their attempts to produce enough money and resources to achieve these goals.  The economic situation for migrants is rife with contradiction and consequently, frustration for the individual living out this contradiction.For more information CLICk HERE

Friday, 15 April 2011

The diasporas' Life: A Complex Interweaving of Social, Cultural and psychological Processes

People in diaspora are faced by many complex problems on a daily basis.  Even those who lead relatively stable existences and have managed to achieve the coveted goal of landing a good job and securing a comfortable place of residence are still faced with difficult and challenging predicaments.  These predicaments include such things as structural barriers to employment (breaking the glass ceiling); grief, loss or trauma issues; systemic racism; cultural identity crisis and also the thorny matter of what the diasporas’ new economic and political responsibilities to the ancestral homeland should be.  Those in diaspora feel enormous daily pressure to resolve these dilemmas, yet most feel powerless to do so.  This is largely due to the fact that many of the individual migrant’s micro-level problems are largely due to macro-level issues—in other words, the immigrant’s problems stem from the host country’s existing social structure, and are therefore largely beyond the individual’s efforts to control. Of course we must talk about, “Breaking the silence”. We need to find out why people in the diaspora are so depressed, that they think life unfair. Is it pressure, loss of family/relatives and friends, loneliness or some other social ills . I believe the only way to find out is to talk and listen to each other with tolerance, love and acceptance.

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Although individuals in the diaspora may feel helpless when it comes to resolving the macro-level issues of their new society, these individuals can still practice certain micro-level solutions that will help to empower themselves and allow them to navigate their daily lives more successfully.  These solutions are the focus of my book: “No Boundaries – Exploring strategies and solutions for life in Diaspora.”   In general, the solutions can be seen to boil down to two processes: garnering knowledge plus implementing action.  Knowledge plus action can be defined as follows:


·                     Knowledge: 
   
o   Educating one’s self about the economic, political, social and cultural (macro-level) forces impinging upon one’s life

·                     Action: 

o   Practicing psychological techniques and self-help strategies (micro-level practices) to cope with macro-level forces

o   Taking part in group-activism to combat macro-level forces


Together, knowledge plus action can help to strengthen the individual, plus supply the cognitive and emotional equipment needed to deal with the macro-level forces affecting daily life in the diaspora.  Not only will this produce healthier, happier and more productive individuals, but it could also generate a group who may one day author the macro-level solutions so greatly needed within their societies.

Sunday, 10 April 2011

"No Boundaries"

Learn What Every migrant  Should Know about Surviving & Thriving in a Foreign Country!"
Whether you're a Zimbabwe immigrant living in a foreign country OR you're serious about trying to make a difference in the current crisis in Zimbabwe, you MUST keep reading…

From the desk of: Nobel M. Pasi 

Are you looking to move to a foreign country and worry about the cultural differences and how they will affect you? Are you a native of Zimbabwe already living as an immigrant in a different country and are having difficult assimilating into your new environment?
My name is Nobel Pasi and I know what it's like to leave the comfort of a country you know and how easy it is to move to a new country and face nothing but struggles. Still, for many Zimbaweans, the move to another country is a necessary part of life!
While native Zimbabweans grieve what they lost, those same migrants abroad are sustaining relatives back home with a modest but consistent cash flow. The Diaspora’s income is helping to shore up the desperately fragile Zimbabwean economy for those that are left home.
Necessity, But at a Cost. How Do You Survive?
Migrating to a new country can not only be exciting, but it can be scary and have a negative impact on a person's self-esteem. You already know where you came from. You know what conditions you lived in, good and bad. You've built a reputation there and are comfortable with your environment.
But what will you find and how will you be treated when you live in a
Remember, when you leave your native country and move somewhere else, you leave behind your reputation, the qualifications and skill level you acquired in your home country. You basically need to start from scratch! This can leave many immigrants feeling lonely and depressed as they struggle to be successful in a new country.
It can be terrifying. But with such a growing population of Zimbabwean's leaving their native land out of necessity, it was clear there was a need to show people what they can do to survive such a transition. I made it my mission to be a "fly on the wall" and learn as much as I could about what skills helped people succeed, and where these immigrants went wrong.
I talked to a wide number of people who were immigrants in other countries, and to those who'd stayed, about the importance of each role and how to make the most of it.
After months of research and discussion, I wrote No Boundaries: Zimbabwean Migrants Abroad (Exploring Strategies and Solutions for Life in Diaspora) , a 104-page Book that gives real solutions and strategies to achieve a fulfilling life for both immigrants and native Zimbabweans living in Diaspora.
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Contemporary Zimbabwe: A Population on the Move (Introduction)
Disappointment and Disillusionment in the New Host Country (page 1)
Get Real, Get a Plan, Get a Grip: Positive Coping Strategies for Life In Diaspora (page 20)



Living in Cultural Limbo Land (page 56)
The Desire to Return and Should You (page 67)
The Role of the Diaspora to the Motherland (page 80)
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